Even though we've been parents for almost 13 years now, we still have lots to learn. This week's topic in MM is very dear to me as I'm always interested in listening to other parent's sharing tips with one another.
I have two "would-be teen-age boys", the most sensitive stage. Which means I should be more understanding, more sensitive, more patient, more firm, and more caring.
From the very start, I made sure I am approachable to my kids. I try to know what it is that they like, what it is that they hate, and try to read their minds and actions. I tried my best to act as one of their friends (with authority). I also make it a point that I share my thoughts and feelings with them. So through the years, we've developed a good communication line.
I learned that it is important to practice what you preached. Blaine Bartel wrote is his Big Black Book for Parents that parents should model the following actions for their teens:
1. Be Polite. Treat others with respect. Say please and thank you. Also remember, dads: Ladies first.
2. Smile. Show off those pearly whites. This small gesture will go a long way.
3. Share. This unselfish act is pack with power.
4. Listen. Give others your full attention. They will appreciate the investment.
5. Lend a hand. Mow the lawn for an elderly neighbor, or send a card to a relative you have been praying for.
6. Give a gift. There doesn't have to be a special reason, but the best reason of all is to simply say, "I care about you."
We may not notice it, but our children especially our teens, are watching us and they learn from us - parents!
i hope i can apply those tips when my little one turns teen.. Happy MM(^^)
ReplyDeleteSo true! our kids look up to us. Now that I have my tweens, I need to guide them more. Hope you can check my entry.
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Becoming a good role model to our children is really challenging. It takes a lot of conscious effort to "walk our talk" but that's one of the best ways to teach them the values that we want them to imbibe. Thanks for your tips!
ReplyDeleteI hope you can also check out my MM entry @ http://www.anaturalmama.com/2011/09/parenting-tips-how-to-positively.html. Thanks in advance!
I love the last part when you said that we may not noticed but they are looking at us and picking up their cues from what we do...So true, we have to be really good examples to them, that is the reason why nakakainis makakita ng mommy na sinasabihan ang anak na okay lang itapon ang basura sa kalsada...
ReplyDeletei hope you can also peek at my parenting tip
this are some very practical tips Divine! Thanks for sharing them with us :)
ReplyDeleteYou're absolutely right, Mommy! Parents should set good examples for their children to emulate. Visiting late from MM!
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