Even though we've been parents for almost 13 years now, we still have lots to learn. This week's topic in MM is very dear to me as I'm always interested in listening to other parent's sharing tips with one another.
I have two "would-be teen-age boys", the most sensitive stage. Which means I should be more understanding, more sensitive, more patient, more firm, and more caring.
From the very start, I made sure I am approachable to my kids. I try to know what it is that they like, what it is that they hate, and try to read their minds and actions. I tried my best to act as one of their friends (with authority). I also make it a point that I share my thoughts and feelings with them. So through the years, we've developed a good communication line.
I learned that it is important to practice what you preached. Blaine Bartel wrote is his Big Black Book for Parents that parents should model the following actions for their teens:
1. Be Polite. Treat others with respect. Say please and thank you. Also remember, dads: Ladies first.
2. Smile. Show off those pearly whites. This small gesture will go a long way.
3. Share. This unselfish act is pack with power.
4. Listen. Give others your full attention. They will appreciate the investment.
5. Lend a hand. Mow the lawn for an elderly neighbor, or send a card to a relative you have been praying for.
6. Give a gift. There doesn't have to be a special reason, but the best reason of all is to simply say, "I care about you."
We may not notice it, but our children especially our teens, are watching us and they learn from us - parents!